10 Truths about Life and Relationships

This is a condensed version of the 15 life truths presented by Brad Federman of Performance point.

As you get older you have the benefits of seeing the world differently because of your experiences.  As a child I thought I knew the answers to life’s questions and now I realize there are a lot more questions than answers.  As I get older there are some beliefs that I feel hold true that stands the test of time.  These beliefs determine how I approach the world and my work.  Here are 10 truths as I see them:

  1. There is no time like the present.  Some of us are haunted by the past or we remember the school and college  days; some of us spend significant time worrying about our future or dream of what might be.  The trouble with both approaches is we miss the here and now.  Take a moment to anchor yourself in the present and be, really be, with those in your life now.
  2. To find happiness look inward and accept yourself rather than looking outward and hoping for acceptance from others.  You will never find acceptance from everyone else and you do not need to find it in others.  It is your life…focus on your own acceptance and happiness can follow.
  3. It is so much easier to hear things when you stop making noise.  Listen to the birds, crickets, the sound of the ocean wave, but most importantly, listen to your family, friends, and clients.  You will be surprised what you hear and learn when you are not the one talking.
  4. Anger only anchors you in the past.  I will be honest with you…I still struggle with this one. Anger never moves you forward.
  5. Time is your only real enemy.  Money, resources, access are all challenges that many of us face, but if you have enough time you can achieve any of those things and more.  The problem is we have a limited number of minutes, hours and days.
  6. Sharing your whole self makes you more interesting.  No one likes a one dimensional person.  You cannot get to know them and you cannot trust them.   What makes unique is not perfection; it is your flaws.  Go beyond your strengths and let people see the real you.
  7. Love people not stuff; use stuff not people.  Material items come and go, but friendships if invested in can last forever.  Forget about keeping up with the Jones’s and try to get to know them or the Mishras , Iyers , Shastry or whoever you find interesting.
  8. Know your unique self; understand you passions and talents and then find people or organizations that need what you can deliver.  Stop chasing the money, looking for the opportunity, or trying to find your next angle.  Be who you are, do what you love, for people who want that and the rest will follow.
  9. Focus on others and be curious.  Trust is proportionately related to the amount of interest you show in others.  The more curious you are about them the more trust will exist between you.  People do not trust those who are self oriented.
  10. Forgiveness is just as important for you as it is for others.  Forgive yourself.  Let it go.  Learn and move forward.

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