Steven Covey speaks about reaction and response. But in the midst of the action it takes a really evolved person to differentiate the two.
The eagerness to defend surpasses the reason to be rational.
Tammy Lenski gives some insights on how to handle criticism. But tell you what – this is like homeopathy. The action you choose to take must be already ingrained before the criticism happens.
Coz if that is not so , if you are not mentally prepared to face a blow to your ego – the lizard brain will take control and do the defending for you. And your criticizer might not know what hit him. As it happened in my case.
Nevertheless what Tammy Linski offers are good ways to manage these abrasive situations-
Acknowledge is different from accept. Feedback received. Noted. To act upon it or not is a decision that you can take in your time.
Give yourself time to respond. It could be 10 minutes or it could be 1 day. Time enough to disconnect from the emotions of the moment.
Who says the process of self improvement is sweet and smooth. Criticism is bitter, yes, but is the message worth considering.
If so, then however damaging the criticism might be, the treatment needs to be borne.